I usually learn something new every day. I think every day there is a life lesson, but it's up to us to uncover it and understand it. Whether or not we agree with what comes of our day, it happened and we must grow from it.
Last week especially, I have been faced with some realities. One being that when it comes to friends, you win some and you lose some. For me I've always been the one who has had an easy time making friends. I am fortunate enough to have many friends from high school that I am very close with. Since high school I have created friendships with many others as well. To me I am puzzled with how people's lives seem to change, so much that they often seem to forget their friendships. I vow never to be like that--that person who pushes away their "old" friends.
Why do our friendships fall apart? What can we do to keep them interesting even as we grow and move in separate directions? Do we blame it on age? Or jobs? Marriage? Who knows I suppose. Everyone chooses their own reasons and rationale for gaining and losing friends. If it were up to me, I'd be in better contact and relationships with those friends who are slowing drifting away.
In addition to friendships falling apart, it's the reality that families have those same breaking points. I have learned that not all families are perfect, and things happen that bring a family together. And things happen that leave you just wondering. But all you can do is be supportive and wait it out, despite how difficult it may be.
So, instead of letting the day slip away from you. Step back and see what you may have learned. It could teach you a lot about yourself as well as others.
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Good post Mal. It sucks growing up.
nice post! Oh yeah, i finally figured out that I can't get to your blog from my blog (which i have also been neglecting lately due to my job) lol. So I bookmarked ur blog and now it'll be easier for me to read it.
But I know what you mean about the friends thing. I am actually fighting a similar thing myself, because i think it's time to distance myself from a certain "friend." That should be interesting.
I guess I am one of those people that sees people from high school only on very rare occasions. But I have never felt like I was the one pushing them away, I felt pushed myself. I think in some ways I realized just how different we were and our goals and values changed in very different ways. I mean, I lived with my best friend for a year after high school, and now I barely even wanted to go to her wedding. I feel bad about it, but I guess I rationalize by saying that a relationship takes two. I can't make it work on my own. Oddly enough, I am much closer with all of Jeff's friends than most of my own. But I love them all just the same.
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